Since the first shall be last and
the last first, I’ll start with Total Dependence.
Declaration of Total Dependence
--I declare my total dependence on
God. I want to say with the psalmist, “Whom have I in heaven but you, and on
earth there is no one I desire who compares with you.” “In God I live and move and have my being.”
God alone is my source of glory (recognition, acknowledgment, and the
fulfillment of my longings for beauty, love and belonging). God is my glory and
the lifter of my head. Jesus is my companion on the road, my resting place, my
home. The Spirit in me is the fulfillment of my dearest dreams. I live to love,
praise, honor, rejoice in and glorify my Lord. “Praise to you, Lord Jesus
Christ, King of endless glory.”
Declaration of Interdependence
--Thank you God for providing me
with a human companion on the road. Thank you for Hal, my best friend, my
lover, my colleague in work, my prayer partner, my peer mentor, someone to
laugh at my jokes and understand my tears, the human being I love above all
else in ways that are ever changing. What a life you’ve called us to and what a
joy now to be able to grow old together. We do depend on one another. In our
case, two definitely are better than one. We walk forward hand in hand to the
dawn of a perfect day.
Declaration of Independence
--In terms of the beautiful
children and grandchildren you’ve given us, we declare our ongoing love and, at
the same time, our independence. I’ve raised my children to be independent
mature persons, and now they are passing it on to their children. I release
you, dear ones. More than that, I not only get to rejoice in your independence
from me, I get to declare my own independence. I will always love you, but I do
not need you to keep needing me. I am even becoming free of any need for your
approval. While I am still parent and grandparent, the roles have changed. I am
free to be who I am with you and to go beyond the role. I don’t have to be “Super
Grandma” or “Ancient Wise One” or “Whatever.” I can let the roles mature and
meet you face to face.
Independent, yet interdependent.
All of us together dependent on our Lord and the creator of all this joy. So
help me, God.
