Sometimes stereotypes irritate me;
other times they make me smile. I smiled last week as I read Alexander McCall
Smith’s description of peacemakers, through the lips of the slightly audacious Precious
Ramotswe of Botswana’s “No. 1 Ladies’ Detective Agency.” The following
conversation takes place between Mma Ramotswe and an old friend from her
home-village in the African bush:
“We need more women in public
life,” said Dr. Maketsi. “They are very practical people, women. Unlike us men.”
Mma Ramotswe was quick to
agree. “If more women were in power, they wouldn’t let wars break out,” she
said. “Women can’t be bothered with all this fighting. We see war for what it
is—a matter of broken bodies and crying mothers.”
Dr. Maketsi thought for a
moment. He was thinking of Mrs. Ghandi, who had a war, and Mrs. Golda Meir, who
also had a war, and then there was….
“Most of the time,” he
conceded. “Women are gentle most of the time, but they can be tough when they
need to be.”
Dr. Maketsi’s realism balances Mma
Ramotswe’s stereotypical view of women as more naturally inclined to
peacemaking than men. Since stereotypes are usually constructed on a grain of
truth, the sense that women are the mothers and, usually, the nurturers of
children lends some support to the image of the peaceful, gentle woman. But an
open-eyed look at life affirms a more realistic assessment. It’s tough for
human beings to live peacefully. Not natural at all. For any of us.
Let’s look at another large group
of people around whom stereotypes seem to flourish—Christians. Do people
outside the church stereotype us as being peacemakers by nature? Actually, no.
A lot of sad history, plus the usual dollop of human nature we all inherit have
produced other, more negative stereotypes. Even we Quakers sometimes seem to
live in ways that negate our testimony for peace. Our history has its share of
divisions and controversies, including disputes over peace.
Jesus spoke the words, “Blessed
are the peacemakers,” for the whole church. Peter wrote to the early
Christians, “Finally, all of you (not just Quakers and Mennonites), live in
harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate
and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with
blessing….seek peace and pursue it” (1 Peter 3:8-9, 11, NIV).
I love Paul’s admonitions to the
Philippian Christians: “Delight yourselves in God, yes, find your joy in him at
all times. Have a reputation for gentleness, and never forget the nearness of
your Lord (Phil. 4:4-5, Phillips).
There’s an ocean of difference between
a stereotype and a reputation.
Thanks for speaking truth again! You're a strong peacemaker.
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